Do you want to do things on your own and yet, you can’t quite pull it off? This condition afflicts many of us, in bigger or lesser ways:
- maybe it’s a problem you can’t seem to solve
- maybe it’s a habit you’ve had for a long time
- maybe it’s things you “ought” to do — like becoming healthier, getting more organized, using your time better, or controlling household clutter
My personal issue is losing weight.
My first attempt was in elementary school. I wasn’t the chubbiest kid in my class, but I carried a few extra pounds. With mother’s insistence, I took my lunch to school, rather than eating cafeteria food. I learned to count calories and track what I ate. I don’t recall if I actually lost weight in those young years but I tried.
In college I gained the Freshman 10 and then lost it with increased exercise walking the campus hills. A summer in India removed another 25 pounds. My college curriculum emphasized nutrition and healthy eating. In my first job I taught nutrition to high school students. I know this stuff!
Years later, after the birth of my children, I had extra pounds to lose. I joined a group, successfully lost weight, and kept it off for a number of years.
My final career in the food business was not kind to my body — or my self-control. Being surrounded by good food, all day, every day, was both heaven and hell. Any day I resolved to eat less, was the very day a plate of some new recipe arrived on my desk for sampling. Duty overran resolve.
In my retirement, I’ve tried several different methods/groups to help with weight loss, with minimal success. I know exactly what to do, I’ve done it before, but I am unable to accomplish it now. I just want to enjoy food without thinking about it, following a plan, and being disciplined.
At my last doctor’s appointment, I said, “My eating is out of control and I need a dietitian or nutritionist who can help me get straightened out.” He made a couple of suggestions for what I might do. Subsequent lab results show my diabetes is out of control and changes must be made. His previous suggestions that I lose weight have now become a mandate.
I’ve made the appointment, met with the coach, and am working the plan. So far so good.
The principles are the same, no matter our personal struggle:
- to admit I can’t accomplish what I know how to do feels like failure — huge failure. Paying someone to direct me in doing what I already know how to do seems like a waste of time and money.
- to admit to myself and the doc and the dietitian that I can’t do this is an embarrassment and tarnishes my pride.
- owning my failure is half the battle.
- the options are few: do it myself or get help.
If such struggle is familiar to you, consider:
- asking for help to get you started.
- getting an accountability partner or coach or mentor
Remember, you are not the first or only one with such struggles.
Until next Tuesday . . .